Stephanie Moses
Running Up That Hill...
By Natalie Geld
WhyAreWeWhispering.com
Rather than great highs and incredible lows, aim for balance.
Limby and lean, with a smile as broad as her 10 acres, Stephanie shares the very same techniques that successfully rode her through the waves of her divorce.
Natalie: What are Bio Emotional Methods?
“Bio Emotional Methods are tools to gain clarity in every moment for stress and emotional distress. I’ve found that through visualization, aligned body movement - and the release of physical, mental and emotional energy - we can experience relief from stress and pressure.”
Natalie: What are the benefits?
“Instead of waiting for a 'big bang' external change, Bio Emotional Methods allow you to truly build - and rebuild - from within. By using our mind~body connections in a practical way, we create emotional strength and comfort through simple yet powerful changes of state.”
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Natalie: Often our thoughts seem to run rampant, feel beyond our control, and it’s almost impossible to keep up let alone make changes. How does it work?
“Your mind is a very logical and practical system. In the middle of runaway thoughts and sleepless nights, making the leap to 'fly with eagles' or to 'be Zen now' is just too far a jump. So, the first step is to get to neutral, where you can begin to see options.
For example, if your car were backsliding down a hill, you'd get yourself safely stopped and give your wheels some traction before you started up again. Same idea – get your feet on the ground, find your center and be aware of your true self to take that next step forward.”
Natalie: What is EFT? Emotional Freedom Technique is compelling in title alone –
"EFT is a very interesting technique based on the meridian energy systems of Chinese medicine. What's beautiful about EFT is that you may not have to fully excavate in order to expose what the particular issue is connected to, sometimes EFT can simply release that pattern.
In the physical realm, sometimes the body just wants to have a conversation, the body is holding or tightening and when you start to put words to it, your body can release, it can let go.”
Natalie: What do you mean by - our body wants to have a conversation?
“Well, I will give you a personal example. I had pain on the right side of my jaw. So I went to my dentist and asked him about it. He said, “Well, look at your teeth, you’re grinding them, you’re biting down.” I said, “I don’t ever grind my teeth and bite down, what are you talking about?”
Later on that weekend, I’m driving in traffic and I realize that not only am I biting down, but I am biting down as hard as I freaking can only on that right side of my jaw. I mean painfully clenching and I’d never noticed that before. So I did what he suggested to correct the issue dentally, but there was always residual pain and I would wake up in the morning and have an aching feeling.
I initiated into self-hypnosis and simply asked, “What is it? What do you want to say?”
Well, let me tell you, the amount of expletives that poured out of my mouth, I mean no sailor could match up! It was amazing to me to hear the honest things I had wanted to say to someone about feeling emotionally devastated, that is what I had been holding. Those feelings are what my jaw muscles were closing down on.
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From that point on, those muscles let go as if to say, “Okay, good thank you, you heard me.” It creeps back in once in a while, and I repeat the process...you have to become vigilant about your inner communication, that inner voice, and how the body is expressing or subverting it.”
Use your body to affect the mind or your mind to affect the body, either way – get the conversation started.
Natalie: How does this relate to our sexual lives?
“Most of us walk around not attending to our whole body all day, we tune it out to keep going and then expect to feel a load of sensations for sex. Just not going to happen.”
Natalie: How can we evolve these patterns?
1. Add some level of consciousness; look at yourself from a more nurturing, helpful perspective.
2. Start to notice what happens throughout the day and reshape the negative.
3. Open a bio-emotional conversation in any way possible – breathe, do a little dance, twist and stretch; really listen to the words attached to what you feel - so your mind and body can express those feelings and move on to some good stuff.
We deserve some good stuff.”
