Tomas Heartfield, C.T.E.
WhyAreWeWhispering.com



Q: My penis is raw from intercourse. Why? Is it possible to have too much sex?

A: Dude -- it's possible to have too much of anything.

On the physical side of sex, penis "burn" can be caused by lack of lubrication, hair stubble, friction and, did I mention ... not enough lube. Not every woman has an extra quart in her crankcase. So guess what? You can add it.

Another approach might be to crank up the foreplay. Frequently, many men jump the gate. They don't wait long enough before penetration.

Wrong approach! Make sure your honey is nice and juicy before entering her. If she is in a dry spell -- you guessed it, add lubrication. She will thank you, and your penis will be well rewarded.

While you are contemplating how you make love, think about slowing it down and check in with her more often. This loving practice will create more trust and intimacy between you. Another form of lubrication.

Tomas Heartfield, C.T.E.
WhyAreWeWhispering.com



Q: Very exciting, slick site. Great work.

Are you familiar with Tantric massage? This is something I want to explore, having heard about it recently, but I don’t quite understand it. Have you any insight? Any information you can impart is appreciated. ~ Bob, Argentina

A: Tantric Massage is a method of awakening the body through focus on the energy centers and building a sexual charge in the body.

It is used as a way of waking up the body and also as a meditative technique that teaches the body how to tune in to subtle rivers of energy that flow up and down the body. The Taoists call them "meridians".

Some people think Tantric Sex is a bit woo woo. But once they start to feel this energy in the body they start to understand. There is a whole universe of pleasure to be discovered once you start to practice showing up in a bigger way. It is a great way to deepen your awareness of how to become a better lover.

At our Divine Feminine Awakened Masculine Institute -- we show beginners how to get started, and hold seminars around the country. I hope to see you there!

Q. Jay Leno was talking about Sting’s four-hour orgasms one night and he attributed it to Tantra. Jay had a lot of fun with it and now it seems Tantric Sex is a new catch phrase to describe great sex. What is it exactly and how do I find it? My husband says let's try it. I'm hesitant. It seems like hype to me. We have great sex. Is it all it’s cracked up to be -The Yoga of sex? J.S.

If life is a dance and we’re learning the steps, Tantra is hot smoking Salsa.

Many see Tantra as the Yoga of Everything. Those who live their life as an art form have more freedom to express themselves in refreshing and powerful ways.

True Shivaic Tantra is part of an ancient spiritual practice, which elevated sexuality to a sublime meditative state. The sexual aspect was only part of a bigger experience. Though many gradients of quality seem to exist, any activity that brings more reverence and respect to the world is good. Experiencing our sexuality as sacred is the best antidote we know for things like pornography, perversion and sexual abuse. Western modes of Tantra help us focus our sexuality to connect to the Divine in each other and ourselves; to participate consciously in this dance takes living to a whole new level.

The fact that you have a good sex life already, and that your husband wants to explore this dimension with you could mean a quantum leap in your lovemaking and in your life.

Imagine seeing the Divine in each other and treating each other with that reverence, respect, honor and love. The quality of energy this brings into your life is sweet, blissful and immensely powerful. Some say love is only waiting for us to show up. Indeed, love is possible in every moment. Kalu Rimpoche, the Dalai Lama's teacher says there are three paths to enlightenment. The slowest but the surest is meditation. The second is music. The fastest? Sacred sexuality – Tantra.

TO TRY TODAY
Increase Your Batting Average.
Make it a practice to see the inner as well as the outer beauty in every woman you see today. See the goddess in every woman. Watch for subtle cues such as smiles as you allow their being to touch you. Flush your predator consciousness down the toilet. Instead, see what happens when you allow yourself to be consumed by the beauty around you.