Aug 2011
Birds of a Feather
Filed in: Birds of a Feather
By Mantak Chia
WhyAreWeWhispering.com
Energetic and sensual touch is featherlight touch that simply grazes over the surface of your partner’s skin, awakening the nerve endings and drawing energy to the area.
In a massage, harder pressure will relax your partner’s muscles, while light touch will awaken your partner’s skin.
For sensually touching a woman, a man needs to remember that her sexual energy must be brought to her genitals from her extremities. Time providing, he should start at her hands and feet and move along her legs and arms. Then he can start at her head and caress along her torso. Only after circling her genitals should he touch them directly. In the metaphors of the Tao, yin is like water and so it must fall down the mounds and folds of a woman’s curvaceous body to the lowest point, her vagina. Water always settles in the lowest place.
For sensually touching a man, a woman needs to remember that his sexual energy needs to be brought out of his penis to the rest of his body. For this reason, she can start at his penis, touching it lightly but without focusing on direct stimulation. She does not want to stoke his fire but to keep it at a low burn. If he gets too excited, he will explode and ejaculate. By taking the sexual energy from a man’s genitals, his partner can spread it out through his legs and arms, out to his hands and feet, and up to his torso and head This will draw the energy away and allow him to have greater ejaculatory control and help him experience whole-body orgasms.
Of course, if he is having difficulty with an erection, the energy should be drawn to his penis. (Bear in mind, when a man lies on his back, gravity works against his maintaining an erection as the blood flows out. If maintaining an erection is an issue, it is best for the man not to lie on his back, so that gravity can draw blood to his penis, not away from it. Standing, sitting, kneeling, and lying over his partner are all better positions for helping a man to get an erection.)
Body Parts
In the West, we tend to think of people as machines and the parts of our body as separate, like the parts of a car. When touching your partner’s body, it is important to remember that the energy meridians (channels) circulate throughout the body and that you are trying to awaken your partner’s sexual energy and not just to stimulate a particular part of his or her body. Put differently, great pleasure can be generated by touching particular nerve endings on our hands and feet, or nipples and genitals, but these nerves are connected through a
complex web with the rest of the body. Try to maintain a holistic ad energetic view of your partner’s body even as you refine your skills for pleasuring individual parts. In Healing Love, every touch is part of harmonizing with each other; holding hands or pressing lips together is as important as intercourse.
Excerpted from The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know (How Couples Can Dramatically Enhance Their Pleasure, Intimacy, and Health) by Mantak Chia and Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D. Copyright 2000 by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D. All Rights Reserved; HarperCollins Publishers, 10 East 53rd Street, New York NY 10022.
WhyAreWeWhispering.com
Energetic and sensual touch is featherlight touch that simply grazes over the surface of your partner’s skin, awakening the nerve endings and drawing energy to the area.
For sensually touching a woman, a man needs to remember that her sexual energy must be brought to her genitals from her extremities. Time providing, he should start at her hands and feet and move along her legs and arms. Then he can start at her head and caress along her torso. Only after circling her genitals should he touch them directly. In the metaphors of the Tao, yin is like water and so it must fall down the mounds and folds of a woman’s curvaceous body to the lowest point, her vagina. Water always settles in the lowest place.
For sensually touching a man, a woman needs to remember that his sexual energy needs to be brought out of his penis to the rest of his body. For this reason, she can start at his penis, touching it lightly but without focusing on direct stimulation. She does not want to stoke his fire but to keep it at a low burn. If he gets too excited, he will explode and ejaculate. By taking the sexual energy from a man’s genitals, his partner can spread it out through his legs and arms, out to his hands and feet, and up to his torso and head This will draw the energy away and allow him to have greater ejaculatory control and help him experience whole-body orgasms.
Of course, if he is having difficulty with an erection, the energy should be drawn to his penis. (Bear in mind, when a man lies on his back, gravity works against his maintaining an erection as the blood flows out. If maintaining an erection is an issue, it is best for the man not to lie on his back, so that gravity can draw blood to his penis, not away from it. Standing, sitting, kneeling, and lying over his partner are all better positions for helping a man to get an erection.)
Body Parts
In the West, we tend to think of people as machines and the parts of our body as separate, like the parts of a car. When touching your partner’s body, it is important to remember that the energy meridians (channels) circulate throughout the body and that you are trying to awaken your partner’s sexual energy and not just to stimulate a particular part of his or her body. Put differently, great pleasure can be generated by touching particular nerve endings on our hands and feet, or nipples and genitals, but these nerves are connected through a
Excerpted from The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know (How Couples Can Dramatically Enhance Their Pleasure, Intimacy, and Health) by Mantak Chia and Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D. Copyright 2000 by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D. All Rights Reserved; HarperCollins Publishers, 10 East 53rd Street, New York NY 10022.
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