Why Do Men Count Our Orgasms?
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Submitted by Ellen Joy W.
WhyAreWeWhispering.com
My first question is “why do guys always want to count orgasms? Do they understand that it should be about the journey to the orgasm and not solely about seeing how fast and how many times they can make us climax?”
So the two guys I am having sex with both do the same thing: count and insist on seeing how many times they can make me come. I explain that for me having an orgasm is easy, though that doesn't apply to all women. Many of us can reach an orgasm better or easier all by ourselves so their accomplishment isn't really a huge feat.
They really should focus on foreplay and the climb to the orgasm to ensure the most intensity and pleasure from the orgasm itself.
So despite the pleas to "make it his" I decided to sleep with a second of the three guys I'm dating. At risk of feeling I'd be classified as a ho, I decided that men do it all the time so why not? I'm tired of double standards. Anyway, glad I did. Turns out they are both very good sexual partners and I get something very different from each of them. But something similar that I get from both of them is - counting orgasms and wanting to make "it" theirs.
The first partner alluded to it our first time together and by the third time was saying things like "I want to make this mine" and "I don't want anyone else up in this." The second partner said during our first time together, "What do I have to do to make this mine?" Well at least he asked. And since we have pretty good open & honest conversations, I asked if it was sex talk. He verified that it was but that it does hold some meaning. He would like to know that no one else will be having the pleasure of my company sexually. We also discussed that there is a difference between wanting the sex to be his exclusively and wanting me exclusively as in a relationship.
I was with my #2 friend last night and again got the "I want this to be mine, what do I have to do?" Is it just me or do all men ask this same question during sex? And do they all focus too much on the orgasm and/or counting them?
By the way, my responses to their questions are as follows:
1. So how many times did you come? “I don't count. I can make myself come as many times as I want to. I was more concerned with what you were doing before I came.”
2. What do I have to do to make it mine? “It's not up for sale or lease. It's all mine baby. Best you can do is be glad I'm sharing it with you and treat it like the very special gift that it is.”
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Submitted by Ellen Joy W.
WhyAreWeWhispering.com
“Reading this made me stop dead on my tracks, and it’s possibly something
lots of us men never really thought about.”
So the two guys I am having sex with both do the same thing: count and insist on seeing how many times they can make me come. I explain that for me having an orgasm is easy, though that doesn't apply to all women. Many of us can reach an orgasm better or easier all by ourselves so their accomplishment isn't really a huge feat.
They really should focus on foreplay and the climb to the orgasm to ensure the most intensity and pleasure from the orgasm itself.
So despite the pleas to "make it his" I decided to sleep with a second of the three guys I'm dating. At risk of feeling I'd be classified as a ho, I decided that men do it all the time so why not? I'm tired of double standards. Anyway, glad I did. Turns out they are both very good sexual partners and I get something very different from each of them. But something similar that I get from both of them is - counting orgasms and wanting to make "it" theirs.
The first partner alluded to it our first time together and by the third time was saying things like "I want to make this mine" and "I don't want anyone else up in this." The second partner said during our first time together, "What do I have to do to make this mine?" Well at least he asked. And since we have pretty good open & honest conversations, I asked if it was sex talk. He verified that it was but that it does hold some meaning. He would like to know that no one else will be having the pleasure of my company sexually. We also discussed that there is a difference between wanting the sex to be his exclusively and wanting me exclusively as in a relationship.
By the way, my responses to their questions are as follows:
1. So how many times did you come? “I don't count. I can make myself come as many times as I want to. I was more concerned with what you were doing before I came.”
2. What do I have to do to make it mine? “It's not up for sale or lease. It's all mine baby. Best you can do is be glad I'm sharing it with you and treat it like the very special gift that it is.”
http://networkedblogs.com/d9Mnw & http://www.ellensdoor.com
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